“But the men I was introduced to were told what I wanted and shared those dreams. From the off we were on the same page and then it was only a matter of finding someone I also found physically attractive and that was Mark, the third man I met.” Wilkinson is far from alone.One in five relationships in the UK starts online, according to recent surveys, and almost half of all British singles have searched for love on the internet.“Any relationship that forms is more likely to be based on a shared value system, the same interests, the same legwork as opposed to a relationship based on chemistry alone, which, as we all know, is the quality that tends to fade first in a relationship.” The cheapest dating sites offer a smorgasbord for customers to browse, with thousands of men and women claiming a GSOH and posting out-of-date photos.
“They have a huge database and they also can follow couples’ stories through, which hasn’t been possible so far.” For most of history, using a third party to help you find love was the norm.
But in the 20th century this all changed, with young people deciding they wanted to be in charge of their own domestic destinies.
“Although I felt a bit of a loser, I joined an online dating agency.
I filled forms about my interests, my opinions and my personal goals – which was having a family – something I’d been too frightened to mention to my exes in the early days for fear of scaring them off.
Professor John Cacioppo, who led the study, said the sheer number of available potential partners online could be among the reasons for the results.